How to be safe from zina/sex

Asalamualkum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatu. (Peace be upon you and God's mercy and blessings)

How to protect ones self from fitna of zina/sex to fully understand this topic and how to avoid it we must look at Hadith and Quran.

As the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “I have not left behind me any fitnah (temptation) more harmful to men than women.” There follow some of the methods by which we can avoid this temptation. We ask Allah to set the affairs of the Muslims straight.

1 – Faith in Allah. Faith in Allah and fear of Allah provide a safety valve and protect a person against committing haram actions and following his own whims and desires.

The Reckoner, the Preserver, the All-Encompassing, that will generate fear of Him in secret and in public, and will put a stop to disobedience towards Allah, and will reduce the strength of desire that leads many people to commit haram actions.

2 – Lowering the gaze The gaze can generate bad thoughts in the heart, which then to desires, then to will, and then inevitably to doing haram things. Think about the meaning of this verse which makes a connection between the first steps towards haram and the end result.

Allah says (interpretation of the meaning): “Tell the believing men to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts). That is purer for them. Verily, Allah is All-Aware of what they do” [al-Noor 24:30]

3 – Warding off evil thoughts Bad thoughts pose a danger to the heart… If a person dwells on them and does not push them away, they will develop into an idea, then into will and resolve, then this will inevitably lead to haram actions.

Beware of dwelling on passing thoughts; rather what you must do is to ward them off and crowd them out with good thoughts. The treatment, then, is to ward off these passing thoughts and keep yourself busy with beneficial thoughts

4 –Marriage It was narrated that ‘Abd-Allaah ibn Mas’ood said: The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “O young men, whoever among you can afford it, let him get married, and whoever cannot, let him fast, for it will be a shield for him.” al-Bukhaari, 5065

5 – Fasting for those who cannot get married – because of the hadeeth quoted above, in which it says, “…and whoever cannot, let him fast, for it will be a shield for him.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 5065. Al-Qurtubi said: The less a person eats, the weaker his desire becomes

6 – Keeping away from bad companions. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “A man will follow the way of his close friends, so let each one of you look at who he takes as a close friend.” Abu Dawood, 8433

7 – Keeping away from places of temptation. It is obvious that we are living in a society that is filled with temptation – media of all types, magazines, flirting, the internet, etc… So you have to flee from all of these in order to keep your iman and stop sin

8 –Do not make your houses graves Make your house a reminder of obedience, not of sin. If a room is connected to sin for example, that will make a person commit sin repeatedly, because every time he enters that room he will remember the sin and may be provoked to commit the sin

So he should make his room and his house a reminder of obedience to Allah, when he enters he sees the Mus-haf which he reads, and he remembers praying qiyaam al-layl for Allah, and the regular Sunnah prayers that he offers in this room.

So he should make his room and his house a reminder of obedience to Allah, when he enters he sees the Mushaf which he reads, and he remembers praying qiyaam al-layl for Allah, and the regular Sunnah prayers that he offers in this room.

Doing a lot of acts of worship in your house will make a connection in your mind between the house and doing good deeds, so you will do more and will think less of sin, and the calls of desire will grow less.

9 – Trying to make the most of your time in worshipping Allaah. Time is one of the great blessings that Allaah has bestowed upon His slaves, but there are many who are not making the most of it.

It was narrated that Ibn ‘Abbaas (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Two blessings which many people do not make the most of: good health and spare time.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 6412.

10 – Remembering the blessings of the Hereafter. Particularly appropriate in this context is remembering al-hoor al-‘iyn and their attributes, whom Allaah has prepared for those who are patient and steadfast in avoiding sin.

This can help the Muslim to look away from these transient haraam pleasures which only lead to regret and loss. We ask Allaah to help us to avoid temptation, both obvious and hidden. Praise be to Allaah the Lord of the Worlds.

So to recap

• •Strong faith

• •Lower your gaze

• •Warding off evil thoughts

• •Get married fast

• •Keep away from bad friends

• •Keep away from sinful places

• •Make your house a reminder of allah

• •Spend most time worshiping allah

•Remember jannah

Next whenever an evil thought comes to you say the three

• Al nas

• al falqa

• al ikhlas

  For they ward off evil and allah protects you...

  And lastly NO MUSIC Music since its creation has stirred up feeling of fitna especially fitna of sex it is a gate way sin However you will find nasheeds do not have the same affect subhanallah so listen to those instead brother.